Aarav’s Hinge profile is a masterclass in plausible deniability.
Nowhere does the 29-year-old Bengaluru-based IT professional mention that he’s a Tamil Brahmin. There’s no reference to whether he’s an Iyer or an Iyengar, no mention of horoscopes, and certainly no hint that his mother has already begun mentally auditioning potential daughters-in-law. Instead, he leaves behind the sort of clues only the right people are meant to notice: a photograph from Chennai’s Margazhi music season, another with a steel tumbler of filter coffee, and a prompt passionately insisting that Mylapore has the city’s best sambar.
His parents have accepted that he will probably meet someone on his own. They would prefer that someone belonged to the same community. He doesn’t entirely disagree. “Shared traditions matter,” he says. “I just don’t want to discuss horoscopes before I’ve figured out whether I even enjoy spending time with someone.”
And that, strangely enough, feels like India’s dating problem. Or perhaps, more accurately, its missing middle.
We have become extraordinarily good at helping people marry within their communities. For over two decades, we have built an entire digital ecosystem around it. In fact, Matrimony.com alone operates more than 325 community-specific sites, spanning religions, castes, linguistic groups and professions.
What we never really figured out was the bit that comes before it. Dating.
Around the block
Which is curious because religion still exerts an astonishing influence over whom Indians marry. Pew Research Center, which conducts public opinion surveys in countries outside the US, found that 99% of Hindus, 98% of Muslims, 97% of Sikhs and 95% of Christians marry within their own faith, which makes the absence of faith-based dating apps all the more intriguing.
India has no shortage of faith-based matrimonial websites. But when it comes to faith-based dating, the cupboard has been surprisingly bare. That’s what makes Muzz — one of the first global, faith-first dating apps to officially expand into India — so interesting.
The London-born platform, which officially expanded its India operations this year, occupies the space between Tinder and Shaadi.com. It isn’t interested in casual swiping, but neither does it expect your parents to join the conversation before you’ve decided whether you’d like to split dessert. Globally, it says it has over 17 million users across 190 countries and has facilitated more than 800,000 marriages.
Indian couple
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Kamal Sharma
For one 28-year-old architect from Mumbai, that middle ground was exactly the appeal. “I thought I’d finally be able to skip the explanatory part on Muzz. If everyone here already understands Ramadan or why I don’t drink, maybe we can actually talk about books or films.” Instead, she found that shared faith often accelerated the conversation rather than relaxed it. “So many chats felt like someone had opened an Excel sheet. How often do you pray? What’s your timeline for marriage? How many children do you want? They’re valid questions. They’re just not first-date questions,” she says.
Spend enough time browsing Reddit, and you will find that the complaints around matchmaking sites sound remarkably familiar. Users describe conversations that become transactional, and the usual ailments of modern dating — ghosting, dry conversations and mismatched expectations — persist despite shared religious values. If anything, faith sometimes seems to fast-track discussions about marriage, children and family without ever answering the more fundamental question: Would we actually enjoy spending two hours together?
A 31-year-old Mangalorean Christian describes arriving at the same conclusion from a different direction. Long before algorithms entered the picture, church aunties had already perfected the recommendation engine. She still finds herself gravitating towards other Christians — not because she’s unwilling to date outside her faith, but because shared religion sometimes make it easier to crack inside jokes, as trivial as it may sound. “Christmas traditions, family jokes, food, Sunday Mass. You don’t have to explain those things.”
For years, matrimonial websites were India’s default operating system for finding a spouse. Today, they’re beginning to look more like the final chapter. Even Matrimony.com, India’s largest listed matrimony platform, says the script is changing. In its Q3 FY2025 earnings, it reported a “noticeable decline” in new profiles, with paid subscriptions falling 9.7% and matchmaking revenue dipping 4.2%. Its latest annual report found that while 30% of couples who met online in 2024 did so through digital platforms, only 9% met via matrimonial websites.
Younger Indians are lingering on dating apps longer, delaying marriage and gravitating towards niche platforms built around faith, identity and shared values. Even Matrimony.com has read the room, launching Luv.com, a dating app for working professionals — a tacit acknowledgement that modern Indians don’t want to jump straight from “Hi” to horoscope matching.
Which perhaps explains why so many Indians continue using Tinder, Bumble and Hinge while signalling identity rather than declaring it outright. Tiny breadcrumbs that algorithms probably ignore but the right people recognise instantly.
India, it seems, hasn’t stopped looking for marriage. It has inserted a much longer dating phase before it.
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Published – July 31, 2026 03:38 pm IST
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